tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32085591.post4810168685666939788..comments2023-11-07T21:12:19.852-06:00Comments on Wyrdsmiths: Sexing Things Uptate hallawayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06631759014508937940noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32085591.post-30747163377257049132008-02-06T12:04:00.000-06:002008-02-06T12:04:00.000-06:00Euphemisms are the worst. Well, the best AND the w...Euphemisms are the worst. Well, the best AND the worst. The cruder ones take you out of the story (unless the narrative voice fits them), and the more delicate ones make the reader giggle. I read one scene that had "meat" as a male euphemism and I can advise you, should you be considering that, that it does not work at all.<BR/><BR/>Over at Sofawolf, we have a writer, Kyell Gold, who does a lot of romance stuff with explicit scenes (mostly gay, though the flip side of yours) and has actually won a couple awards for his stories. Now, the characters are anthro animals 'cause that's what we publish, but I asked him about your question, and he said, "Find and read a lot of bad sex scenes. For me, that not only took away a lot of the embarrassment of writing my own (hey, everyone else is doing it), but also fired me up to write a better one."<BR/><BR/>(You can find his journal at kyellgold.livejournal.com if you want. :)Tim Susmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02354987680992285327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32085591.post-73739673639064569292008-01-31T19:53:00.000-06:002008-01-31T19:53:00.000-06:00I vividly remember the essay I sent you, but I can...I vividly remember the essay I sent you, but I can't remember enough of the right details to dig it up again.Naomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16235581646855322094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32085591.post-44519075298034262672008-01-28T22:03:00.000-06:002008-01-28T22:03:00.000-06:00There's a definite pattern when I write sex scenes...There's a definite pattern when I write sex scenes: write sentence. Blush and pretend to be doing other things. Write another sentence. Repeat. <BR/><BR/>The majority of my characters are like, "Hey! A little privacy here, please?" when they get it on, though, so I don't spend a lot of time blushing.Theo Nicole Lorenzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13316780018221045702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32085591.post-86094985635419419812008-01-28T20:39:00.000-06:002008-01-28T20:39:00.000-06:00Yeah, sex scenes are tricky. I wrote my first one ...Yeah, sex scenes are tricky. I wrote my first one a couple of months ago, and I had a lot of trouble with the language. It was really tricky to find words that weren’t crude, medical, or insanely vague. I think I did all right, but I’ve yet to revise.Michael Damian Thomashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14801106830378983906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32085591.post-8372024028894273122008-01-28T16:51:00.000-06:002008-01-28T16:51:00.000-06:00So far my sex scenes have been vague and straightf...So far my sex scenes have been vague and straightforward and a paragraph or two in length. No "insert tab A into slot B" business. <BR/><BR/>As for terminology, I think that wholly depends on the style of the book and the characters involved. If it's a historical romance, flowery language. Trashy romance, crude language. Science fiction, try using computer terms. Ask yourself what your character would call a penis--would she say penis? Cock? Genitals ? Privates?<BR/><BR/>I agree that sex scenes should be more than just sex. The readers can glean a lot about the characters by watching how they characters interact--do they have trust issues? Are they kinky? Are they uptight?Kelly Swailshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08712523963592799928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32085591.post-36641496757131587552008-01-28T12:22:00.000-06:002008-01-28T12:22:00.000-06:00I had a sex scene in Small Magics, but in the cour...I had a sex scene in Small Magics, but in the course of moving from one draft to another, it became inappropriate (the relationship between the two characters went from being 3 months long to 3 weeks and given that they're both teenagers, my reading group found it a bit trashy).<BR/><BR/>I don't have much difficulty writing sex scenes if they're the climax (heh-heh) of a chapter or a defining moment for the characters. But for the most part I find that while they are fun to read they don't add to the plot. Of course, I'm writing fantasy, not romance.<BR/><BR/>So I, too, politely look away and then give you hints of what they were doing i.e. "Reluctantly they moved their mouths and hands from each others mouths and bodies."Erik Buchananhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11117613593580899672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32085591.post-34058853134314059822008-01-28T10:52:00.000-06:002008-01-28T10:52:00.000-06:00I still get embarrassed and giggly - just like a k...I still get embarrassed and giggly - just like a kid. LOL It's particularly difficult when I'm writing a character I'm particularly close to...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32085591.post-32601241900189112072008-01-28T10:30:00.000-06:002008-01-28T10:30:00.000-06:00I do the same thing in my writing. I look away po...I do the same thing in my writing. I look away politely when things get physical. My partner says it is a weakness and she is probably right. So I decided, the next time my characters are ready to do the deed . . .I am going to make HER write the scene. I figure either I will learn something or else she will. LOL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com